The first thing to remember is that whether it is your first time or umpteenth time, usually the client is just as nervous if not more and therefore be sweet, gentle and kind but don’t be the ‘nice girl’ because too much rope can turn a Basking Shark into a Great White.
Now some girls don’t get nervous at all but I believe the complete absence of anxiety is because of complacency – which is not a good thing for both parties. Lilith have a handful of clients they know very well but with any booking, the escort needs to have her instinct and initiative incredibly sharp, even if it is with someone you have seen ten times. Back in the day, I was the new escort that was friendly yet decisive while the other girl who had been in the business for years sat back lazily and as a result she realised she was shafted by the time she got home whereas I received everything that was agreed – no more no less.
It is important to remember that a lot of agencies will use the word ‘regular’. Their interpretation could be someone who books ten times a week or just called once and hung up the phone. Many agencies love to use the word regular because it a) makes them sound important, b) refrains you from swapping numbers because the client may report back to the agency (yes, a prestigious allegiance indeed) c) will put pressure on the girl to look her best d) will make the escort feel a little bit safer about seeing him. Most these points are bullshit and although they are likely to be ‘regular’, you may be the unlucky girl who that one time is sent a random drunk to the house who has just had an argument with his wife and hates women. All this because the agency wants to make money and there is always a new girl to replace the last who quit due to post traumatic stress disorder. Remember, the agency are the middle man, don’t be scared to say no and once you know your worth, you won’t negotiate.
When you approach the room, enter and smile and if you are that nervous, watch a stand up comedian on the way to the job in the taxi or a five minute documentary on Armageddon in order to put your fears into perspective. However, expect the best but always prepare, just in case, for the worst. Clients used to tell me that I was relaxed, refreshing, sagacious and intelligent but the psychologists were quick to notice that beneath my smooth disposition was a frightened child. Over time, I managed to perfect this so that even though I was working, I not only make the clients feel like I wanted to be there but I also started to see them as friends that book me through an agency. Be prepared for the minority who ask invasive such as ‘why you are doing this and are you lost?’ Always reply with a dignified smile and don’t fret because these are the individuals who are trying to project the guilty spotlight off them as much as possible because usually they have their other half totally oblivious to what they are up to. The ‘I had to stay in late at work excuse is so old’, it belongs in the Global Antiquities department in the British Museum. N.B no offence to those of you who genuinely do work round the clock.
Therefore, be yourself with an invisible protective shield surrounding you. People judge continuously, even we do it to the clients. In the face of continuous judgement, our personalities develop and our egos keep changing. Please remember in moments of solace, you are the only person you have to answer to.